It can be a huge shock when someone you care about is diagnosed with cancer. You may have confused feelings – upset and anxious yourself, but wanting to help where you can.
The term ‘carer’ describes the role taken on by partners, family, friends, neighbours and colleagues. It’s an unpaid role - vital for helping provide practical and emotional support when someone needs it most.
Being a carer can be both rewarding and stressful at the same time. You may be involved on a day to basis with the highs and lows of cancer and its treatments.
It can be emotionally and physically draining, as you juggle other responsibilities like work, home and family - alongside your caring role. You may live some distance from the person with cancer and be unsure how to help.
It’s tempting to put your own feelings on hold, as you focus on the wellbeing of the person you care about. It's natural to feel anxious, angry, frustrated, guilty and tired. This is understandable - you’re only human, and there's a lot going on. You may worry about the uncertain future, and how you will cope as the care needs change.
As a carer, you’re a key part of the network looking after the person with cancer. Looking after yourself is important too. Finding out where and who can give you support, can help you day to day in your caring role.